I did finish the book Men Who Hate Women and the Women Who Love Them by Susan Forward, PH.D. It ended with a sort of a follow up report on the couples focussed on throughout the book. These women eventually removed themselves from their destructive relationships and had begun building new lives.
What was most interesting was that their fears were not realized but quite the opposite. I am not saying it was accomplished without a struggle and hard work but they had the determination to want something better. Self identity was regained, also they liked themselves once more. Most of all there was peace, peace of mind, peace in their environments instead of strife, fear and continual confrontations.
Much of society view battered women, whether physically or emotionally abused, as women who are weak and want to be mistreated and abused, otherwise why would they stay. I myself have had difficulty in this area. But as the author writes in every step of the book one can see that it is much more complicated than meets the eye. However the situation is not hopeless for any women but it does take some decision making on the part of the women.
Though I have not ever been in the kinds of relationships portrayed in the book, I certainly am very much aware of all the danger signals that are described in this book. Preventive is just as important as doing something to get out of bad relationships.
We each have an uniqueness about us and there is so much opportunity to be in a circle of friends that bring out the best in all of us. We are valuable though maybe not famous. We each have something good to give and share. What a waste to remain in a bad relationship that just destroys you.
I hope all that have found themselves in bad relationships will muster up the courage to take that first step and do something about it for themselves. We can’t change how others act or talk or treat us but we do not have to remain their victim. I believe all of us have the inner strength to be an overcomer but perhaps one who is in a bad relationship has to look a little harder to find it, but that’s okay because it really is there. You will find happiness and peace and you will then begin to like your life.
I have written several times as I have been reading this book so you might want to read them as well. There was so much in the book that writing over a period of time seemed to work better, otherwise I would be writing a book about the book. LOL
Women of all ages should take the time to read this book. After reading it for yourself let me know how it has encouraged and helped you, send a comment. Need an internet friend? Send a comment because I really do care about hurting people.
Jm
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